Judging others is wasted energy. Unless you’re an actual judge or scoring an Olympic routine, what are you really doing?
When you judge others, you’re often just projecting your own insecurities. You’re pointing at something you wish you had or fear you don’t. And instead of working on that within yourself, you’re throwing shade. That doesn’t help them—and it definitely doesn’t help you.
Here’s a better use of your energy: growth.
Let’s talk about those old shoes. Maybe you haven’t thrown them out yet, but you thought about it. And that matters. That’s forward momentum. Thinking about doing something different is often the first and hardest step. The rest might be tough—but that’s where the good stuff starts. Growth lives in the challenge.
I truly believe that anyone can reach their goals with the right information and mindset. Sure, there will be roadblocks—obstacles that stop 99% of people. But that doesn’t have to be you. If you’re willing to let go of outdated ways of thinking, you can replace them with something better.
Like tools. You wouldn’t fix a 2025 engine with a rusty wrench from 1987. You need the right tools for the job now. And if you’re still using judgment, comparison, and ego as your go-tos—it’s time to upgrade.
Making better choices takes mental bandwidth. You’ve got to clear out the clutter—those old, unhelpful thoughts—and make space for sharper, more effective ones. Tools like patience, resilience, self-reflection, and kindness (especially toward yourself).
You can do this. When things get hard, reflect—but don’t dwell. Look back only to appreciate how far you’ve come. Every failure is a sign you tried. Lately, I’ve been asking myself this: “Did I give my best? And how can I do better?” There’s no such thing as perfect. But there’s always room to grow.
Sooner or later, you’re going to have to put those new tools to use. I get it—those old tools are familiar. Comfortable. But comfort doesn’t build dreams. Progress does. And yes, you’ll make mistakes. That’s part of the process.
Just remember: the only reason to look back is to see how far you’ve come.
