Kids point fingers and blame others. Adults take responsibility—they own their mistakes, learn from them, and move forward.
Blaming others is a quick way to trap yourself in an emotional rut. True growth comes from the discomfort of owning your actions. It builds resilience and emotional strength.
Instead of looking for the easy way out by deflecting or making excuses, embrace discomfort the way you would after an intense workout. You might feel weak in the moment, but as you recover, you grow stronger. The same applies to your emotional self. The more you lean into discomfort for the sake of growth, the more you will evolve. Nothing meaningful comes from staying comfortable.
Now, think about someone who was clearly in the wrong. How would you feel if they dodged accountability, made excuses, or justified their behavior? Compare that to someone who took responsibility, accepted the consequences, and showed they were learning from their mistake. Which person would you respect more? Which one would you want in your circle?
The blame game keeps us emotionally immature. I could say I’d be as big and strong as Chris Hemsworth if I had a personal trainer, a nutritionist, and unlimited resources. But guess what? Some people have those things, and they’re still not Chris Hemsworth. Excuses are just tools for those who think success happens by accident.
When you start making excuses, ask yourself:
- Am I using all the tools available to me?
- Am I putting in real effort?
- When I seek guidance, am I actually following through?
Blaming circumstances won’t put you in a position to do your best. Take ownership. Be better.
